Thursday, September 10, 2020

Baby Hollingsworth | Sharing the News with Family and Friends

Telling our families literally consumed my thoughts for the 2.5 months leading up to it. I truly thought of little else. I'm sure Parker got tired of listening to my bazillion different ideas and hearing, "I can't wait to tell our families!!!" about 1000x a day haha! I was just so excited that we finally got to share our secret and experience something I'd been envisioning for so long!

This ^ was what we gave to our families as Christmas presents and to share the happy news!

Saturday, May 9, 2020

1027

Hey friends! I come to you this Saturday evening with a fun and silly post (Parker would agree that its silly for sure) sharing about something kinda weird and quirky but also kinda cool. It's been fun for me to think about over the years so I thought it deserved its own blog post. So without further ado.... The story of 1027.

Side note: have you ever seen a cuter future tap dancer's little foot? No. No, you have not!

Around the beginning of 2016, I started seeing the numbers 1027 a lot. It started out by randomly glancing at the clock at 10:27 am & pm every single day, no matter the time zone I was in. And every time that happened I thought of my childhood best friend, Breanne, because those were the last 4 digits of her phone number growing up (so I guess I've technically been seeing that number my entire life.... wow!). I thought maybe seeing 1027 so frequently was just a little nudge to reach out to her to see how she's doing so I did just that. Well, this continued on for a long time and I started seeing this number other places, too. Here's a random example for you:

I started following Tanya Rad (who is the co-host of my favorite podcast called Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad with premiered in 2017) on social media because I looooove her podcast. She also works on the Morning Show with Ryan Seacrest and their radio show is on 102.7 Kiss FM. They celebrate October 27th like a holiday because the date is 10/27 so every year around that date, those numbers are all over my IG. And lots of other things like that would happen. I saw 1027 EVERYWHERE and OFTEN!

I started to put a lot of stock into seeing this number so every year when October 27th would come around, I thought for sure something significant would happen... and I usually hoped that it related to having a baby whether it was getting pregnant, finding out I was pregnant, or have that be the due date of our baby. Please note that it was 2016 when this started happening which is also the year we started trying to conceive. That little fact seems significant.

Well fast forward to when we went through our IVF round last fall, our transfer was on October 23rd which means implantation could have happened any time within the following few days so I like to think that I was officially pregnant on October 27th haha. Some other coincidences with those numbers include: both Parker and I are 27 years old and October, the month we got pregnant, is the 10th month of the year. Baby girl's due date also consists of those numbers with it being in July (the 7th month) of 2020 and the actual date has a 1 in it but I'm not sharing the specific date publicly.

And here's a screenshot I found on my phone of 10:27 on 10/27 just for fun haha!

Also, on October 27, 2019, my mom was thinking about me a lot because she knew about this pattern and she decided to look up any scriptures she could find that had those numbers and she came across Mark 10:27 which says, "And Jesus looking upon them saith, With men it is impossible, but not with God: for with God all things are possible." Coincidence? I don't think so. I found that scripture to be super comforting as I know that the whole experience we had that I shared in this post regarding getting pregnant and Parker's residency match was all being directed by God. His hand was in every detail and I like to believe that this was His daily reminder that good things were coming and I needed to trust in Him.

I'm guessing baby girl will be born at either 10:27 am or pm on whatever date she decides to actually make her appearance but I guess we'll just have to wait and seeeee ;).

xoxo, Chelan

Sunday, April 26, 2020

Baby Hollingsworth | First Trimester

Documenting a pregnancy has been a dream of mine for so long so the fact that I'm actually sitting down to write this out is making me giddy! I've been putting it off because I wanted to do an official announcement post first but didn't feel like I could do that without sharing our experience so now that that's out in the world, here we are!

The first-ever "bump" photo I took the day before we found out I was officially pregnant!

Due date: July 2020! We aren't sharing the specific due date publicly because I know that if I go past then, the last thing I will want is a bunch of people asking me if I've had the baby yet. I can get pretty ornery sometimes so this is just protecting y'all from being snapped at ;).

Cravings and/or aversions: I'm not sure if I specifically had any intense cravings during the first trimester. It was more random things would sound really good like pickles but I didn't feel like I had to have them right then and there. One crazy thing (for me) was that I was no longer interested in pop. I instantly stopped craving carbonation which has never, ever, ever happened to me before. I mainly didn't want to eat anything because most foods sounded gross. And if I cooked something and had to smell it for long periods of time, that food item likely still grosses me out. I'm really crossing my fingers that Thanksgiving dinner isn't ruined for me forever because I spent all day cooking on Thanksgiving Day and could hardly eat the meal. And then turkey was served multiple times over Christmas break and it was a no go every time. Blegh. Cooked vegetables were especially gross to me during the first trimester and those are usually one of my favorite foods!

Morning sickness: I'm very, very grateful to have not had any severe nausea or vomiting. I know that that is a nasty symptom of pregnancy for so many women so I do not take it for granted that my experience was so mild in comparison. I felt nauseous most evenings and knew that eating would help but no food sounded good so that was more annoying than anything. I did throw up twice near the end of the 1st trimester but that was after switching to a new prenatal vitamin and taking it first thing in the morning... big mistake that I didn't know was a thing. Within 20 minutes of taking it, I threw up and it came out of nowhere! I tried again the next day taking it with some breakfast but had the same result. It was especially surprising to me since I had only been feeling nauseated in the evenings so I was not expecting that reaction at all, let alone first thing in the morning. So weird!

Keeping our secret: I want to do an entire post all about telling our families the news because that was another experience that I had literally dreamed about and planned out sooooooo many times in my head over the course of trying to conceive so to actually have lived that out was just dreamy and so special! We had told a very select few people about our fertility treatment and after the embryo transfer, we told those people that we wanted to wait until we were ready to share whether or not the treatment was successful. Everyone was so kind and respectful of our wishes and didn't pry even though I knew it just about killed some of them haha. Looking at you, Mom! But it just made it all the more fun when we got to surprise them with the happy news IN PERSON at Christmas!

Initial feelings of seeing the baby via ultrasound for the first time: We officially found out we were expecting on November 4th and my first ultrasound wasn't scheduled until November 27th. That time in between felt like FOREVER and my mind just kept going to the dark place wondering if the baby was still okay and what we would see on the ultrasound, etc. Parker technically had to work that day but managed to slip away and seeing our little babe on the screen for the first time was magical! We got to see her little heart pumping away. They took some 3D photos for us which was a fun surprise. I didn't know they did that so early but she was such a little alien back then! I was also thrilled to finally have some photos to put on the fridge and stare at every time I walked by!


Aches and pains: I had some round ligament pain in the first trimester that really scared me. It was a feeling unlike anything else I've ever experienced and I think because it had taken so long for us to get pregnant, every little thing kind of freaked me out. But luckily that didn't last longer than 2-3 weeks or so. I also had a tiny bit of spotting one night while we were in Canada over the holidays and just about lost my ever-loving mind out of fear but Parker was able to calm me down. We also were fortunate enough to have been able to listen to the baby's heartbeat the next day and it was as strong as ever so all was well.

My changing body: I didn't really start showing until the second trimester but I was definitely bloated and my boobs got bigger almost immediately (which is just the best!). I could tell my body was changing and Parker could too because we live together but to the general public/family and friends I looked the same.

The gender: Whenever Parker and I would talk about starting a family, we both pictured having a girl first. But after Parker saw the heartbeat on the ultrasound, he was convinced it was the heart of a little boy for some reason haha. I still thought it was a girl but then I started to get a lot of hair on my stomach. And I had been told that if you get a lot of dark hair on your stomach that its a boy so both of us thought it was a boy up until we actually found out the gender. I also have never wanted to find out the gender of my kids but Parker did so I gave in and we are having a baby girl! We didn't find that out until the second trimester and I'll share more details about that day in another post as well but since I know and I've already mentioned that she's a girl in my last post it felt weird to pretend like I didn't know...

Here are all my Sunday "bump" pictures I took during the first trimester! I wish I had taken more even though not much changed during that time.

Please forgive the messy bedroom in the background of every one of these photos... I at least had the decency to make the bed for the first photo haha!

Coming up next: telling our families and friends the news! I can't wait to share that experience along with some videos!!

xoxo, Chelan

Monday, April 20, 2020

...Then Came the Baby in the Baby Carriage!

We're having a baby!!! We couldn't be more thrilled to welcome our baby girl into our family in July! I've shared our happy news publicly already so most people know but I wanted to share an official announcement on my blog as well because it's a documentation of our lives and this is such an exciting part of our personal history. Our story is unique and very, very special to us, and we finally feel ready to share more details about our experience with infertility and trying to grow our family.


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I have always wanted to be a mom. When anyone would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would say, "I want to be a mom and I want to teach dance a couple of nights a week." I always wanted to be a "young" mom and yes, I know I'm still young... Parker and I were both 21 when we got married and we figured we would wait 2-3 years before growing our family which I think is pretty typical for a young couple of our upbringing. November of 2016 was when we both decided we were ready to have a baby. I was so, so excited to finally fulfill my dreams of becoming a mom. If you do the math we weren't able to conceive until October of 2019 so we struggled with infertility for 3 years. The array of emotions you experience every month after unsuccessfully trying to conceive are horrible. It's truly a terrible rollercoaster and we rode that blasted thing for a long, long time. If you are going through something similar, I feel your pain and my heart hurts with yours. I wish I could hug you and tell you that it will be okay but I know that there are few things to say to someone in this situation that are actually helpful other than I'm so sorry.

Doctors won't see patients for infertility until after a year of trying to conceive without success. Our health insurance was not good during medical school and we most definitely didn't have the funds to get medical help so that was off the table at that point. It also didn't help that we ended up traveling around the country for Parker's 4th year of medical school while he did rotations and being in a different state every month was not really conducive to getting fertility assistance. So our dream was basically at a standstill until we could see a doctor.

The 4th year of medical school is a doozy. At that point in their education, medical students have decided which specialty they want to pursue so they'll apply to residency programs in September. The programs then invite applicants they see potential in to come for an interview. After the applicants complete their interviews (typically during October-January) they'll rank the programs that they interviewed at and submit that list mid-February. The programs will then rank the applicants that they interviewed and submit their rank lists as well. Then an algorithm does its thing and "matches" applicants to programs. Match Day is held on a Friday mid-March. The Monday before Match Day, applicants will get an email saying whether or not they matched and then on the Friday, they'll find out where they matched to.

Parker was pursuing dermatology which is a highly competitive specialty due to its great lifestyle. He was an AMAZING applicant and I'm not just saying that because I'm his wife. His test scores were off the charts, he was at the top of his class, his application was incredible and it showed in the number of interviews he was invited on. The 'sweet spot' number for dermatology interviews in the past to have a high likelihood of matching was about 9 interviews (see the infographic below lol). Parker had 22 derm interviews so we were pretty confident that he would match. Dermatology residency is 3 years but it's required that they do an intern year first so Parker also applied to those programs in addition to derm. Well, the Monday before Match Day came and we found out that Parker matched to an intern year, but he didn't match into a dermatology program which was truly heartbreaking and honestly, unbelievable. One of his mentors said that it was the biggest travesty in the history of the Match. It was easily the worst week of our lives and a really dark time for both of us.


Match Day came and we went to the ceremony to support Parker's classmates and that was a really, really bittersweet day. I had to work hard to hold myself together and I felt like I was living in an alternate universe because we had envisioned that day so differently for so long but we were very happy for all of his classmates that matched. We discovered that Parker would be doing his intern year in internal medicine in Boston at Brigham and Women's hospital. Shortly after receiving this news, we remembered that Massachusetts is one of the few states that require health insurance to cover fertility testing and treatment so it seemed pretty clear that that was the reason things worked out the way that they did but I was still very fearful and honestly, really angry about what our future held as I really didn't want to have to do any scary treatment in order to conceive. We decided that Parker would reapply to dermatology residencies in the fall and we would do the whole interview/match process again as we weren't ready to give up on that dream.

We moved to Boston in June of 2019 and Parker started working. His health insurance through his job is amazing and I had an appointment at one of the best fertility clinics in the world, that happens to be at Parker's hospital, by mid-July. They did lots of bloodwork and I had an HSG test where they inject dye into your fallopian tubes and do an ultrasound to make sure the fallopian tubes are open. They found a very small polyp on my uterus and what looked like some inflammation by one of my ovaries so they scheduled a surgery for August 30th to take out the polyp and figure out what was causing the inflammation. The people that I was nannying for at the time happened to go out of town that week so I was able to have time off for the surgery and time to recover which I believe was divine intervention, yet again.

My first ever surgery! I was really nervous but Parker helped me feel calm and my doctor and nurses were so nice!

As a result of the surgery, they discovered that the inflammation was due to a teeny tiny bit of endometriosis and were able to scrape out any scar tissue. I had a follow-up appointment with my doctor on September 12th where I was hoping to hear that I was 'healed' and we would have no issues getting pregnant on our own from that point on. But he told me that what they found likely wasn't enough to prevent pregnancy so we had 'unexplained infertility' which was my nightmare. He explained our options moving forward:

5% chance of conceiving on our own each month
8% chance of conceiving doing IUI (intrauterine insemination)
50% chance of conceiving doing IVF (in-vitro fertilization)

Both IUI and IVF were almost entirely covered by our insurance so I gave it a couple days to talk to Parker and to pray about our options. We both felt like we should go ahead and jump in with IVF right away since the chances for success were significantly higher so I returned to the clinic with our completed paperwork and happened to bump into my doctor who fit me in for a visit right then and there. He filed the paperwork and submitted our information to insurance and told me that it would likely take up to 4 weeks to hear back. Well, I heard back within a week saying that we were approved! I had happened to start my period the day before so I quickly called the nurse to ask if it was too late to start IVF that cycle. They got me started on birth control (who knew that that was a part of IVF?!!) the next day and we got the rest of my medications ordered to start the following week. We began injections on October 4th.

Don't mind the mess in the background but the injections and such arrived!
All the meds out of the box!

I'm really grateful that the injections didn't hurt very much. It helped having Parker there to do most of them for me. I only had to do about 4 by myself throughout the cycle. And I was very, very lucky that I didn't experience any of the crazy side effects that so many women experience as a result of the medications. It was honestly pretty easy for me so I don't take that for granted at all and I am very grateful to have been so fortunate in that regard! With the injections came vaginal ultrasounds (these are sooooo cringy) and blood tests every other day to start and then those increased to every day to monitor the hormone levels in my blood and the progress of follicles in my ovaries. The hospital had early morning hours for both the ultrasounds and bloodwork so I was able to do all of this without missing any work. Another tender mercy.

On October 18th we went in for the egg retrieval. That was the worst part of the whole process by far and Parker sure rushed me to wake up from that procedure lol. We had friends in town and everyone was waiting on me to head to Maine for the day haha. I probably shouldn't have done so much so soon after having surgery but it all turned out okay!

Ready for the egg retrieval! I've never looked better! lol

Had to include a picture of us with our friends in Maine that day!

They retrieved 13 eggs and called us the next day to tell us that 10 of those had been successfully fertilized. They continued to watch them to see which ones would be viable to transfer and scheduled the transfer for October 23rd. We ended up having 4 viable embryos and they transferred 1 on the 23rd.

They sure make you look like a queen before procedures, eh?! Here I am ready for the transfer!
First picture ever taken of our daughter as an embryo! 

At that point, I was pregnant until proven otherwise and then came the 2 weeks of waiting. Those 2 weeks were some of the longest of my life and it took everything in me not to take a pregnancy test early because they can give false positives due to hormones from the injections staying in the system. But we did end up taking a pregnancy test a few days prior to going in for my blood test and the faintest second line appeared. I wasn't ready to believe it at that point so I tried not to get my hopes up. Parker kept telling me to take more tests over the next few days and the line continued to darken so we had an inkling that it had worked but again, I wasn't going to get excited until I had confirmation through the blood test.

The first positive pregnancy test.

On November 4th I went in for the blood test and within a couple of hours, the nurse called me to congratulate me on being pregnant. I still get very weepy to this day when I think about that phone call and I quickly texted Parker to let him know that WE'RE HAVING A BABY!!!!! We celebrated by going to The Cheesecake Factory that night and just kept saying over and over again, "I can't believe this!"

Right after I got the phone call confirming that I was pregnant. Soooooo many happy tears!

Celebrating at The Cheesecake Factory!

A picture of baby girl at our first ultrasound on November 27, 2019. 

Looking back on 2019, it was quite the year for us. We started the year out so hopeful for the future with Parker's residency prospects. Then we experienced the absolute lowest of lows both of us have gone through with him not matching. Shortly thereafter we realized that the only way the situation made any sense at all was if we relied on our faith that God was in control and that He had a plan. When we moved to Boston, things started to happen so quickly and from my first appointment in July to the fateful phone call in November, we were shown over and over and over again that our Heavenly Father cares. The ONLY way we could have ended up in Boston is the way the Match turned out. And the ONLY way we could have gotten pregnant at this point in our lives is if we had come to Boston as we would not have been able to afford the necessary treatment otherwise. We are so grateful for these miracles!

And the story doesn't end there! Parker reapplied to dermatology residencies in September. He did the entire interview process again and once again had over 20 interviews. And just days after we had submitted our rank list for the second year in a row, he got a phone call from the program director at Wake Forest in Winston-Salem, North Carolina saying that they had a spot that would start this year in their dermatology program and they wanted to offer it to him. It was pretty much a no brainer so we were thrilled to say yes! Since Parker didn't match into derm last year, there was a good chance he would have had a year to fill before starting a derm program from this cycle so to be able to start this year was a HUGE blessing! He didn't even interview at Wake Forest last year so we feel, yet again, that this is all part of God's plan for us. Parker has always wanted to live in NC so he is especially excited to live out this dream and the Dean of the Life Sciences Department at BYU once told him that if he ever had the chance to live in NC he should take it haha. We are so excited about our future there with our sweet baby girl and we are eternally grateful for the way things have worked out. We've learned that while God's plan can be very confusing, painful, and hard, it brings the most joy and happiness we've ever experienced. I know that He is in the details of our lives and I'm learning over and over again to trust in Him, in His timing, and in His perfect plan of happiness!

Thank you, everyone, who has shown us love and support in response to our news about our baby girl and our move to NC. We are so grateful to have so many wonderful people in our lives to share our happiness with! I hope that by sharing this special and personal part of our story, maybe someone else can feel some hope and assurance of God's love and plan for them, too.

xoxo, Chelan